Yesterday we focused on perspective.
Today I want to really narrow our focus to importance.
Are you giving more importance to things that are not really important?
As Tony Robbins says, “Are you majoring in minor stuff?”
What are you giving importance to?
In my senior year in high school, I qualified to run in the 2 mile track and field state championships. That week leading up to it I had taken 10 final exams, each 3 hours long and worth 75% of my final grade. When the gun went off I quickly positioned in fourth place comfortably. We ran for 1.5 miles and I felt good. But with half a mile left a line of 7 runners that were drafting behind me pulled out to my right shoulder and ran right by me. I remember watching them pass by in slow motion. I was helpless. I wanted to go but my legs were flat and had no more juice.
Remember, what you constantly think about will consume your energy.
For me it was my studies. I didn’t know it at the time that I would be affected so much but the results speak for themselves.
Many people spend their days focusing on little things, the things that are not truly that important. They become overwhelmed and fatigued because they have not filtered out what is important.
When you feel stressed, reflect what are you stressed about. Is it really that important?
Will it matter in a few months? a year? 10 years?
If it is, ask yourself the most important question you can ask…Why?
If you keep asking why you will find that the least common denominator is FEAR.
Fear of rejection, fear that you won’t be loved, fear that you won’t be good enough.
Your perception is your reality even if reality is something else. Rest assured, rejection is not the end of the world, you are worthy of love, and you are good enough. Don’t judge your performance on activities as indicators of your self worth. You are not what you do. You are a miracle, a unique individual.
Understanding this is imperative to making the transition and shifting your focus to what is truly important.
Pay attention to you language. The words you choose and the way you say things will impact your emotions and re-actions to situations.
Frame your situation/life/work/relationships in an empowering perspective.
Don’t major in the minors. Major on the majors. Take the most important things in your life and focus on this first. Then if you have time for the others you can choose to address the others.
I don’t have all the answers that are right for you, only you do. My job as a coach, a mentor is to guide you and empower you to your own path of enlightenment. If you take that journey with me I can assure you that you will come out stronger, more focused, excited about life.
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