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6 Dealing with a Thief (part 1)

Recently someone stole my phone. They literally walked into my office and decided they needed my phone more than I did.

I was angry. Then frustrated because of the hassle that it would cause in my day. The truth is it is just a phone, it could have been so much worse. The thing that bothers me is that I lost pictures and content. Everything else can be replaced. I am glad no one was hurt…yet. 😉

Now what?

I consider myself having an amazing life. I have nothing to complain about. But as soon as this happened I felt threatened. Some of that “the world is great” thinking was jeopardized. My thought process see-sawed between love and compassion and becoming Dirty Harry. For those of you born after 1985 this reference may elude you. Just know that Dirty Harry liked to take the law into his own hands with a big gun at the end of it.

Now think about how experiencing events like these on daily basis can skew your outlook on life?

Should I be jaded and think that all people are bad?

Some are bad but most are not. I don’t know the guy who stole my phone so I can’t say if he is a bad guy. It is not for me to decide who is good or bad. I believe his actions towards me were bad. He stole my property. People do some pretty crazy things in extreme situations.

Think about how far you would go to provide and protect for your family? Like I said maybe he needed more than I did.

I believe…

Here are my beliefs.

I think people are inherently good.

I treat people as if they’re good, unless proven otherwise. I know some may say that I am being ignorant and in some situations borderline dangerous. Peace of mind is very important to me. If I walked around thinking that people were always out to get me I would have no peace of mind. I refuse to live that way. That doesn’t mean I won’t prepare because I don’t think anything bad will happen.

I choose to live in a world of possibilities, a world where every one has a chance at becoming the greatest and grandest version of themselves. To be clear, I don’t believe anyone is entitled to it. I believe if you want it, you must take actions towards creating the life you want.

I am not God and as such I can’t control everything that happens to me and those I love. I can however control the way I react to my circumstances.  Auschwitz survivor, Viktor Frankl said it best,

“the last of the human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

I want to thank everyone for your support. I have received so much help, offers for phones, and genuine compassion. I am extremely grateful.

Live each day with purpose and appreciate the real important things in life.



PS – It is amazing how much I depended on that phone. In a world where everything is instant, it feels so weird having to wait until I get home or to the office to be able to call, text, or email someone. This experience has definitely taught me how much the technology was using me. Technology is asset only if you can use it and not the other way around. I feel that it is important to learn from all your experiences, good or bad. If you can do that, you can take something useful out any circumstance that will serve you. Just a thought. 😉

PPS – Thanks again for being in my life and having the interest to spend your time reading my writing. Truly an honor.

You Have To Write The First Draft

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This has nothing to do with writing a book, yet it has everything to do with it.

Recently I was writing the outline of one of the books I want to write. I have been saying I am going to write a book for a long time and never done it. In fact that is why I started blogging. I thought that if I blogged on a regular basis I would build the habit of writing and as a result it would make writing a book easier.

I started one book last year but made 3 critical mistakes.

First – I judged the work before it was done.

Second – I did not play to my strengths

Third – I stopped.

*Bonus – I didn’t have accountability.

If you have not done so watch the 3:43 video. It will help put things in perspective on how you can use the analogy of writing to help you achieve what you want in your weight loss and fitness goals and more importantly in anything you desire in life.

If you are the cliff note type because 3:43 takes to much time to watch then here it is…

But I must warn you.

You will miss out on my smooth and eloquent delivery of such a fine message. You will miss my voice as it carries through the air penetrating your ear playing the hypnotizing rhythms on your eardrum. If you are willing to miss all that then read below. 😉

As the Great One, Wayne Gretzsky once said, “You miss 100% of the shots you never take.”

Decide what you want in life.

Decide what you want for your health.

Decide what you want to be able to do and START.

Don’t be perfect.

Start creating some momentum. Create your life’s first draft. Embrace the process. Take imperfect action and correct and edit along the way. The truth is no matter how awesome your plan is, it does you no good if you don’t start executing it.

Don’t fall victim to the 3 Critical Mistakes I made. Start today.

Hope you find this helpful.



PS – I want to thank my friend David Altshuler for inspiring me to write this post and for lighting a fire under my butt to get my first book written. He just launched his book, Raising Healthy Kids In An Unhealthy World. I have not read it yet. I am finishing another book but I can assure you he is an expert and you will benefit from reading this book.

He quite the story teller and has a very humorous style of writing. Usually it involves typing from right to left as he reads it from the mirror in his underwear. Joking aside pick up the book if you are a parent or want to be a parent.

Be on the lookout for an interview with him in the future.

Courage to Listen

In our fast paced world listening almost seems like a luxury not afforded to us.

Over the next few paragraphs I hope to persuade you that listening is not a luxury but a necessity if you want more energy and abundance.

Think about everything you have ever been told about losing weight and getting fit.

It usually goes like this, “Eat less, move more.” (Sound familiar?)

What if this was all wrong?

What if not doing was actually more effective than doing?

Recently I was doing an assessment on a new client. She was frustrated with the way she looked and felt. She felt completely drained. She wanted to lose 30 lbs. Over the past few years she kept pushing harder but kept falling short and so the vicious cycle of frustration and self doubt continued.

She had signed up online for a 2 week intensive with us but after our assessment I explained to her why this would actually be the worst thing she could do for her health. Instead of leaving it there I created an alternative restorative plan. I wanted her to do it for 2 weeks then return and we would evaluate her progress. After I gave her the plan for the next 2 weeks that included meditation, walking, sunbathing, she instantly looked as if a huge pressure was removed. She finally had permission to listen to what her body had been telling her all along. She radiated with warmth and confidence.


Do you have the courage to listen?

In the above example my client was primarily operating in the sympathetic nervous system. Said differently, her body was operating as if she were surviving a life and death situation, like being chased by a lion. In this mode your body doesn’t digest the food you are eating and extract the nutrients needed, so you lack the energy. Because your body feels it is fighting for it’s life it stores more fat for later to protect itself for this emergency. Her body was not recovering properly. Her ability to create new information and problem solve were greatly reduce. She felt “burned out” which stimulates cravings for sugary and fatty foods that help satisfy the chemical and hormonal needs the body wants in the short term.

What do you do?

Do you push harder or do you take time to listen?

Carving time to listen and implementing what your body is asking for, in spite of conventional “wisdom” takes courage.


Be courageous today. Listen, feel, and grow stronger.

If you feel trapped, frustrated, or burned out and want some direction feel free to contact my team and I at 305-741-0560. We are here to serve, guide, and support you on your journey.






Start the fire

Fire in a survival situation is one of the most important things you can have.

Fire can help you make water drinkable by boiling it.

Fire can give you warmth as the temperature drops and it keeps moral up literally giving you light in a dark situation.

Making a sustainable fire has a lot of similarities with creating and achieving successful goals.

In order to start a fire you need to have tinder. Tinder is usually smaller processed wood/plant fibers that are easily ignited. From there you add some really thin twigs to grow the fire, then you add pencil thin wood called kindling. As the fire grows from there you add larger pieces of wood as fuel to keep the fire on for longer.


Light A Fire Under Your Goals

Fire = Understand what your vision, your goal, you end results looks like.

1.   Tinder = Create a simple action to do daily that will easily give you momentum towards that goal. If your goal is to lose weight you may want to do 5 minutes of walking first thing in the morning. This not about creating the best program but doing the action that is easiest, an action with very little resistance on your part. Do this for about 15 days.

2.   Kindling = As your momentum grows, add some tasks that are more challenging. Add push ups and squats interspersed in your walk and add more time. Don’t add too much. You should still feel the desire that you can still do more daily. You want to maintain that hunger. Do for another 15 days.

3.   Fuel = Once you have established a steady routine for about 30 days you can get into making some heavier changes like your diet or increase the intensity of your training. Add one thing and do that for 30 days. Again don’t be in a hurry to keep adding more things.


Here is an important element about fire just like your goals. If you add too much too soon, you suffocate the fire of oxygen causing it to die. The same happens with your goals. Everyone is pumped those first 2 weeks but what happens as life happens. How many times have you started a fitness program full steam ahead and something happens and “You fall off the band wagon”?


Do you really ever “fall off the band wagon” with brushing your teeth or bathing?Are you creating habits that are sustainable? Not really. Why because it is a habit that you have been training your entire life. Focus on the habit approach and there will be no bandwagon to be on. 😉


Lifestyle and daily action is the surest way of success. “Slow and steady wins the race.” I know it’s frustrating when you want it now but always worth it if you commit to doing it.

Be patient, be consistent, be excited.



******SIDE NOTE******

I recently took the kids camping and it was great. The weather cooled down, we had a nice comfortable tent with plenty of space, and best of all we got to explore. I decided that all food would be made over fire.

Dinner: smoked salmon, quinoa with split peas.  Breakfast: 6 eggs & 1 lbs of spinach

Dinner: smoked salmon, quinoa with split peas.
Breakfast: 6 eggs & 1 lbs of spinach


In order to make the fire we had to find the right fuel. Tinder to help get the fire started, kindling to slowly grow the flame, and finally fuel which sustains the fire. Below is a picture after we collected all the wood. Below that picture is a special wood called fatwood. It is wood from a dead pine tree that had all the pine resin collected there. The pine resin is very flammable. It is where we get turpentine from. Enjoy. 🙂




4 5 Things I Learned When Mandy was Hospitalized

For all you parents I am sure you can remember with great clarity the first time you kids were hospitalized.

This is a vivid image I wish would never occurred, but I learned 5 things I want to share with you.


5 Things I Learned When Mandy was Hospitalized


1.   The Miami Children’s Hospital nurses and staff that we encountered were all very nice and genuinely cared. I really appreciated that considering it was the first time Mandy was admitted to the hospital. They made the experience less scary.

2.  Doctors use you as an experiment. I know this is a little controversial but this came from the doctors mouth. He was wanted to prescribe medication for Mandy based what he thinks Mandy has. He said if it doesn’t work then we know it wasn’t what I thought. If it does work then it could be what I thought.

I get it that action in a life and death situation is better than nothing but this was not life and death. I feel it prudent to wait for lab results before you prescribe medication to my son that has side effects that my son will have to deal with for a long time. (I think I will elaborate on this on a future post because I can the people with pitch forks waiting outside my door for what I just said.)

3.   Make the best of each situation. Mandy was feeling better the next day in the hospital so we spent the entire day together playing. It was amazing. We colored. Here is my Smurf. I didn’t get to work out but at least my Smurf looks like he has been hitting the gym with those 8-pack abs.


4.   I need to disconnect more. When I was with Mandy he became my only focus. We hung out and watched Youtube videos about building Legos (he loves Legos, me too). We did some target practiced with a rubber band paper projectiles I use to make in class when I was a kid, and we hopped around the room form colored tile to colored tile. We dared not to step on the white tiles as they were part of an alligator pit. 😉


5.   I need to be a kid more often. This is not some nostalgic dream but a practice of play and presence that I feel is beneficial to all. Try it today.


Looking forward to spending more time with the family. I’ve been dying to take the family camping.

A mentor of mine talks about the the 4 “F’s”


A great Family makes the other three that much sweeter. Enjoy.






Hulk Gets Angry and You Should Too.


Have you ever watched the Incredible Hulk?

The other day I was watching the cartoon with my son. I realized how purposeful he was as the Hulk.

As the mild mannered Bruce Banner he is a push over. But when you anger him, watch out. The Incredible Hulk comes out and rips sh*t up. There is nothing getting in his way.


Make it hurt so bad…

What if you operated in a similar manner about your goals. Not necessarily destroying things but destroying the bad habits. Contrarian speaker, Larry Winget calls himself an “irritational” speaker instead of motivational speaker. I thought that was funny the first time I heard it. He feels that motivation comes and goes quick but if he can irritate and make you so uncomfortable with where you are, that you have no choice but to make a change. While I don’t agree with all he says or all his approaches, I do believe he is right on this.

Think about when you were at your worst, when you hit rock bottom, when you were so fed up with your situation that you made a change. I can guarantee the changes were drastic but they needed to be.

I believe that in order to make a change you must get uncomfortable with where you are at. If it is not that important and pressing for you, why would you do it? As humans we will naturally choose the easier path. You must have a big enough why or change is not a possible.


Being comfortable is the step before death.

I know that is a pretty intense sentence but one that I wholeheartedly believe. Death here doesn’t necessarily mean physical death but the lack of growth, progress.

Think about a patient in hospice. What are they trying to do…make them comfortable.  Think about an athlete that rests on his laurels and doesn’t keep pushing himself to be better daily. Younger more hungry to make it athletes take their spot.

Comfortable in my view equals lack of movement, stagnation, lack of progress. Life is about movement not stagnation.

Get uncomfortable, get mad, and attack your goals with the same fierceness as the Hulk. Let nothing get in your way. Decide what you want and don’t stop until you get it. It may take a few hours, a few days or a few years. Regardless, you have the ability to create the life you desire.

Make it productive, purposeful, and don’t let anything get in your way.







A Man’s View In A Women’s World

18 women and 1 man.

This weekend we hosted the Look, Feel, Be Great Women’s Seminar created by Christian Cruz, my wife, to help empower women to look, feel, and be great on their terms. As the only male in the room I wanted share the most important thing I learned.

There were 3 speakers.

Christian started by sharing Pillar 1 – Mastery Mindset, then Jennifer shared Pillar 2 – Nutritional “Know-How”, Britteny presented Pillar 3 – The Beauty Blueprint, and finally, Christian concluded the seminar with Pillar 4 – Fit & Functional.  They each built on each other with one underlying theme.


What are the questions you are asking?


Last night I was listening to a Tony Robbins CD and he shared the same message I heard all weekend long.

“The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of the questions you ask.”


Below are 10 out of the 23 values Christian shared about high quality questions and what they contribute in your life

–   They allow us to generate new thoughts, ideas, and solutions.
–   They remove fear, feelings of inadequacy and hopelessness.
–   They can generate responses that excite us and transform us.
–   They give us clarity.
–   They don’t assume, they listen and thus find the truth.
–   They allow us to shift our mindset, by allowing us to seek solutions rather than see problems.
–   They create time, money, resources, friends, love, hope, joy where we did not see it before.
–   They ground us while giving us wings to soar.
–   They create possibility
–   They empower us to be the leaders of our life, to live our lives on purpose, with purpose and for a greater purpose


 After reading the values of high quality questions 3 things become apparent.


1.   My wife is clearly the smarter one of the 2 of us.

[No explanation needed.]

2.   By asking better questions, you will get better answers.

[Your questions become the microscope you look at a problem with. The better the question the better your microscope. The magnification of your lens becomes greater allowing you to see more detail and it allows for more focus which gives you more clarity and accuracy to know what to do and why to do it.]

3.   Freedom is all around you.

[Your success is limited by your ability to ask better questions. Often we find ourselves boxed in, confined to doing the same things over and over again, and we wonder why we are not progressing. High quality questions can help you take that box that once confined you, put it on it’s side, stand on it, and allow it to become your soap box to share your message with the world.]


If you are looking become empowered, if you are looking to have more success with your fitness and nutrition, If you looking to achieve your goals then ask better questions. Take control today.


ACTION STEP:  Finish these sentence stems in the comments section below.

*   I feel happiest when…

*   I feel healthiest when…

*   I feel accomplished when…





PSAttention Women: Go to www.LookFeelBeGreat.net to get on the VIP List for next years event absolutely FREE.


PPS – Don’t forget to leave your answers in the comments section below to the 3 statements in the ACTION STEP section.



How do you know when you are successful?

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Finish this sentence: “I am successful when…”

Success looks, feels, smells, tastes, and sounds different for everyone. So how do you know when you are successful?

The video above is almost 1 year old but timeless.

Look how small Amelie is; time flies!

I have a quick story that illustrates the power of this particular sentence stem and the perspective it can give you.

Recently I had a coaching client that was frustrated because she felt that her clients did not appreciate all that she does for them. She had invested lots of energy in making their experience great yet no one shared appreciation like she wanted. After she relayed the story to me I asked her the following question. “Have you ever told them what makes you feel successful?”

She looked quizzically at me so I said it differently, “Do your clients know what you want from them? Do they know what makes you feel good?”

“No, I have never told them.” she answered.

2 Revelations from this Story:

1st – Share what makes you feel successful with as many people as possible. My belief is that people are inherently good. Everyone knows how good it feels to be appreciated. On the flip side they also know how crummy it feels to be unappreciated. By letting others know how to make you feel good then you improve the chances of it happening.

When I originally sent out this video I shared some of the things that make me feel successful. Here are some real examples, I feel successful when I get text messages, emails, and comments on the blog  from you all about how I have been able to help you and your thoughts. It let’s me know that the effort and love I put into writing has been read and actually helped someone. My goal is to help at least one person with everything I write.

Since I shared this I have gotten more text messages and emails which I greatly appreciate. Thank you, it definitely makes my day and puts a smile on my face. 🙂

2ndIf your success depends on other peoples results then you will be very unhappy. If your only measure of success is based on other peoples responses then you are essentially relinquishing your power and are at the mercy of others action. I share with my coaching clients the importance of having an intrinsic success plan that serves you. Things you control. Above I shared things that are predicated on others responses but I also have my internal success plan that puts me in control of my success. Such as when I take time to workout daily, it makes me feel successful. When I write my goals daily, I feel successful. When I spend quality time with my wife, I feel successful.

Create games in your life that you can win on many different levels. Most people create games with rules that don’t allow them to consistently win. They create games that only allow for success when all the stars align. It is not fun playing games that you always lose.

I would love to hear what makes you feel successful in the comment section below.

Start it by saying, “I am successful when…”

Hope enjoyed this post. Look forward to your comments.

(Remember one of the biggest compliments you can pay me is a comment and engagement here on the blog).



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Lollipop Moments

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Great opening question:

“How many of you are completely comfortable with calling yourself a leader?”


We’ve taken the term LEADER and made it God-like. It is time to take that term back and live it daily with the little things.


What is your Lollipop Moment?






BE Time: Your Time For A Better, Happier YOU.


I want to set the stage with this one question:

Do you practice BE time?

This morning I read a quote from the book “The Power of Full Engagement” by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz.


“Sounds become music in the spaces between notes, just as words are created by the spaces between letters. It’s in the spaces between work that love, friendship, depth, and dimension are nurtured. Without time for recovery, our lives become a blur of doing unbalanced by much opportunity for being.”


This statement is so important that it could literally change your life if you apply it. Below are some differences between the two.


BEing : DOing

patient : hectic
listening : talking
stillness : chaos
present : distracted
heart focused : task focused


Why is it easier to DO?

It is easier to quantify doing than it is being. In a society that is so fast paced where working is worshiped and confused with productive we don’t often make time for ourselves and reflecting. I am not one to talk considering my sleep or lack of sleep schedule. I can share from experience when I have me time life is more productive and more enjoyable.

I’ve shared in the past how working out more specifically running is my ME time or BE time. It gives me an opportunity to empty my mind’s cup to allow more space to absorb all the riches the day has to offer.  I make sure that I do my workouts first thing in the morning so that it sets my day just right. But…


What is plan Plan B?

Invariably I am going to wake up too exhausted and can’t work out (it happens more than I’d like to admit). 🙁

What do I do then? Plan B

Yes having a back up as success and fulfillment are important. I journal or meditate for 5-7 minutes. I know that 5 minutes doesn’t seem like much but when you are quiet and listen, without judging your thoughts and yourself, you start improving your relationship with yourself. At first you may not feel it. Like anything worth doing well, it needs to be practiced. We are so use to doing/talking/being distracted from our true self that initially it is difficult. In fact for me it was scary. I had been running away from ME that I didn’t know how to act around myself.

The greatest relationship you must first master is with yourself. If you cannot love, talk, communicate congruently with yourself then how can you genuinely do it with others. You can’t. You can’t because you are not truly giving yourself to your other relationships. Like with any relationship listening is the keystone to success. As the old saying goes, “God gave you 2 ears and 1 mouth, use them proportionally.”


Now What?

Set some BE time. Rekindle that love for your true and beautiful self.  Set time for you, where you are not doing but listening, being, accepting of yourself without judgement. Put away the infamous “To Do” Lists and take time to listen.


Ladies Only…

My wife and I have been talking about this lately and she decided she wanted to do something specific for the ladies (no pressure for me huh).  😉

Women try to balance work life, home life, and societies expectations of what a woman should do. This is sometimes threatening and exhausting. In fact talking to my wife she explains it’s like feeling trapped, even hopeless as thing mount up. There never seems like there is enough time to do it all, let alone have time for herself.
She wanted to do something special and specific for women so she created the Look, Feel, Be Great Movement for women, an event that takes place Saturday, September 21, 2013.

Here is an event for Women to take time for themselves, to RECHARGE, to get to know and CONNECT with like-minded women, and leave EMPOWERED to Look, Feel, and Be Great!
If you are interested please click here for more information –> www.cruzcountry.com/lfbg-seminar




PS – Gentlemen if you have a girl friend, a spouse, or female friend that would benefit from this please share this link with them www.cruzcountry.com/lfbg-seminar. Thanks.